Reply To: Do I have to tell people I dated before I knew?

Ask the clinic about anonymous partner notification. Mine offered to contact people for me without naming me, and that is what I did for the one I couldn’t face. It’s a standard service, not a special favour, and the person on the other end gets told to come in for a test without being told who sent them.

For the other one I sent a short factual message. No apology spiral, no detail, just what I’d tested positive for and that they should get checked. Short was much easier than I expected.