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It usually takes some months from starting treatment to being reliably undetectable, so do not date the U equals U part from your first tablet. Your clinic will tell you when you are there.

The other half of the decision is how it fits your life. Daily tablets suit some people and not others, and some take it for outbreak control rather than transmission at all. Both are legitimate reasons and worth saying out loud at the appointment.

Where home kits fall down is what happens after a positive. A clinic treats you, notifies partners and follows up. A kit sends you a result and leaves you to arrange the rest.

Good for a routine check when nothing is wrong. Less good as your only plan if something turns up.

Numbers helped me here, so: roughly a third of people get at least one recurrence, and that holds across treatment methods and even when warts clear on their own. In the studies the first recurrence typically turns up around the three to four month mark rather than years later.

So round three at this point is squarely inside the expected pattern, not evidence that your particular case is unusually stubborn. It felt different once I stopped reading each new one as a failure.

Book it while you are still in the room. I meant to arrange mine later, did not, and only remembered when symptoms returned five months on.

If the conversation is the hard part, the clinic notification service exists precisely for this and does not name you. Using it for the awkward ones and telling the others yourself is a completely normal way to handle it.

The problem framing is worth pushing back on out loud. This is one of the most common viruses there is, and recurring warts is bad luck with your immune response rather than a moral position.

Tell your clinic. Many sexual health services have or can refer to psychological support, and the distress after diagnosis is a recognised part of what they deal with. It is not an unreasonable thing to bring up.