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The instruction that actually affects the outcome is the one about not having sex until you and your partner have both finished treatment. That is the one worth being strict about.

Worth separating two different worries. Anonymous testing exists in some places. But if something comes back positive and needs treating, or needs partner notification, most systems need some way to contact you.

That is not surveillance, it is so you get your result. Ask what they keep and who can see it.

Same conclusion from the other side. Mine appeared four years into a relationship and my partner spent a fortnight quietly certain. It came from before either of us met.

Do not deep clean the house. It achieves nothing here and it is usually anxiety looking for something to do. Treat the people, wash the bedding, stop.